How Fast Fashion is destroying your Individuality....

On Finding My Own Style:

Finding a personal style feels almost impossible these days. Every scroll on social media, every glance at a billboard, and every store window is a reminder of what’s “in” and what’s already “out.” The world tells us what to wear before we even get a chance to ask ourselves what we actually like. And that’s where the problem begins—we forget to pause and listen to ourselves.

I’ve noticed that the moment I stop and ask, “What do I truly want?”, the urgency to chase after the latest trend begins to fade. The desire to own everything new and shiny loses its hold. It’s almost as if style can only emerge in silence—when we’re not distracted by everything outside of us.

For me, fashion has always been more than just clothing; it has been tied to my insecurities. As a teenager, I used to believe that the right outfit could make me “cool,” could hide my self-doubt, could somehow make me more acceptable in the eyes of others. I wore what was popular, not what I loved. Every outfit was less about me and more about blending in. Looking back, I realize that I wasn’t trying to express myself—I was trying to escape myself.

But style is not something you borrow. It’s something you grow into. With time, I’ve started to see that true style has very little to do with fashion and much more to do with self-acceptance. It’s in the small, everyday choices—the shirt you reach for because it feels like you, the color you wear because it lifts your mood, the pair of shoes that feel right no matter where you go.

Style, I think, is less about appearance and more about honesty. It’s about being able to say: This is who I am, and this is how I choose to show up in the world. And that kind of expression can never be found in a trend. Fast fashion pushes you in that direction to chase something that has no meaning behind it.

How to Avoid the Shopping Loop

So often when we shop, we pick up clothes in isolation—a shirt here, a pair of jeans there, maybe a dress that catches our eye. But when we get home, we realize nothing really works together. This creates a cycle: we keep buying more, trying to complete the puzzle.
One way to break this loop is to shop with more intention. Instead of buying random individual items, think in terms of outfits. Choose a complete look—top, bottom, accessories, even footwear—for a specific occasion or mood. This way, every piece has a purpose and naturally fits into your wardrobe. 

Mindful Shopping Reminders

1. Ask “Why?” before buying
Pause for a moment before you purchase something. Is this piece something you truly love, or just something that looked good on display? That small question can stop an impulsive buy.

2. Think in outfits, not pieces
Clothes rarely exist in isolation—we wear them as part of a whole. Imagine how the item fits into an outfit and into your life. If it doesn’t connect, it’s probably not worth it.

3. Buy for your lifestyle, not your fantasy
It’s easy to buy clothes for the person we wish we were—the glamorous dresser, the party-goer, the trendsetter. But real style comes from dressing for who we are today. Clothes should support your daily life, not an imaginary one.

Fashion will always belong to society—it sets the rules of what’s “in” and “out.” But style belongs to the individual. It asks us to pause, to listen inward, and to choose authenticity over imitation. When we do, clothing stops being just fabric and becomes a language—one that speaks of comfort, confidence, and freedom.